Domestic Abuse

What is domestic abuse?

  • Domestic abuse is not always physical violence. It can also include:
  • coercive control and ‘gaslighting’
  • economic abuse
  • online abuse
  • threats and intimidation
  • emotional abuse
  • sexual abuse

Signs of domestic abuse

It can be difficult to tell if domestic abuse is happening and those carrying out the abuse can act very different when other people are around. Children and young people might also feel frightened and confused, keeping the abuse to themselves.

Signs that a child has witnessed domestic abuse can include:

  • aggression or bullying
  • anti-social behaviour, like vandalism
  • anxiety, depression or suicidal thoughts
  • attention seeking
  • bed-wetting, nightmares or insomnia
  • constant or regular sickness, like colds, headaches and mouth ulcers
  • drug or alcohol use
  • eating disorders
  • problems in school or trouble learning
  • tantrums
  • social withdrawal.

Effects of domestic abuse

Living in a home where domestic abuse happens can have a serious impact on a child or young person's mental and physical wellbeing, as well as their behaviour. And this can last into adulthood. What's important is to make sure the abuse stops and that children have a safe and stable environment to grow up in.

If a child reveals abuse

  • If a child talks to you about domestic abuse it's important to:
  • listen carefully to what they're saying
  • let them know they've done the right thing by telling you
  • tell them it's not their fault
  • say you'll take them seriously
  • don't confront the alleged abuser
  • explain what you'll do next
  • report what the child has told you as soon as possible.

Domestic abuse is a pattern of behaviour on the part of the abuser designed to control their partner. It can happen at any point in a relationship, including after you have split up. Anyone forced to change their behaviour because they are frightened of their partner or ex-partner’s reaction could be experiencing abuse.

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, background, gender, religion, sexuality or ethnicity. However, statistics show most domestic abuse is carried out by men and experienced by women but there are many cases where women are the aggressor. Domestic abuse is never the fault of the person who is experiencing it and it is a crime.

If you are suffering abuse or are aware of someone that is a victim of abuse, please do not suffer in silence. Contact the freephone, 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline.

Freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge.
Call: 0808 200 0247

Visit the helpline to access further information, a contact form and the live chat service. If you are in immediate danger, call 999 and ask for the police.

NSPCC Domestic abuse


How To Get Help

Additional support:

Abuse and Harm Guidance

Advice to parents and carers on keeping children safe from abuse and harm. Website here.

Women’s Aid

A charity supporting women and children from domestic abuse. Please seek help from a professional without delay if you or someone you know is in danger. Visit their Website here.

Men’s Advice Line
0808 801 0327


If you need help now, get in touch. 0808 802 5565. Free and confidential advice and support for women in London affected by abuse. Visit their Website here.

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